As we all have our own view of what a good kiss and kisser is, it is difficult to get just one definition. This is because what you like someone else may not like. So how do you know then if you, or someone else, is a good kisser?
Here are the two golden guidelines. The first guideline for being a good kisser is to be considerate when you kiss your partner. Think of the guy that grabs the girl, like in the old movies and squeezes and sucks the life out of her. If she likes it, fine, but what if she does not? This is why it is good to ask your partner how she / he likes to be kissed.
The second guideline of being a good kisser is that it is not about impressing, but expression. Everybody can kiss, but not everybody can perform the art of a good kiss. This kind of kiss is not about anything else other than making it a beautiful experience. Sharing your feelings through your kiss shows the person how much he / she means to you. A moment to enjoy and remember long after it is over.
Do these guidelines also apply to casual kisses, for example the kiss before school or at a party? Yes! You must always be considerate when you kiss, and you must always make sure that the kiss says the right things. It must say “I like you” instead of “Let’s see how your body can satisfy my needs.”
Some extra tips for good kissing:
- Prevent a smelly breath and clean your teeth.
- Do not worry about technique too much, being sincere and making the person feel special is the only technique you need.
- Check how you stand or sit so you do not step on each other’s toes or fall.
- Do not just stick to one kind of kiss, try different ones (e.g. soft or passionate).
- Do not force your partner to kiss in public if he / she does not like it.
- Plan the time and place or create the right atmosphere.
- Give your partner a chance to kiss back.
- Most important of all. Talk to your partner and find out how he / she likes to be kissed and find a suitable compromise.
Kissing is not just to put your lips together, it’s about using your lips to say what you feel in your heart, like how much you like / love the person and how much he / she means to you. Do this right and you will be a good kisser.
